Chapters four and five of Mama Needs A Do-Over blend together so perfectly, I wanted to keep them together.
Now that we’ve identified our dreams, our goals, and our problems – Lisa Pennington walks us through how they all relate. And more importantly, how we can identify this relationship and use it to help us change. (Bonus: There are some great practical points in these chapters and I’ve created a free download for them! Read on for details!)
Chapter Four: Make The Connection
We don’t often think of our dreams relating to our problems. They’re in two different boxes in my brain. But Lisa says this:
Our problems are the struggle, and our talents and visions are the way through them.
That makes so much sense to me! How can I use my God-given talents and vision (ideas, dreams, etc) to walk through problems in my life? Lisa then walks us back through the first few chapters, where we identified our gifts, our dreams, and our problems. Those things are placed in a chart (which I’ve created for you here!) and we can then pray through how all these things relate.
After you’ve filled in your chart, it may jump right out to you how your gifts relate to your dreams and how you can use those two to combat your problems. One of mine jumped right out at me. One of the gifts that I believe God has given me is to be driven and generally capable. If I don’t know how to do something, given time, I can usually figure it out. One of my dreams is to be organized and healthy. These two things go together for me. A lack of organization at meal time = unhealthy choices. One of my biggest problems that affects several areas of my life is a lack of self control. I see now that rather than using my gift of a driven nature to do outside-of-the-house kinds of things, I need to use that gift and focus it on organizing our eating habits and our home. That clear organization can also help with my tendency towards anger.
By walking through our lists this way, we can identify the next step –
Chapter Five: The Plan
Even if you’re not a list-maker, when you’re trying to battle a problem a strategy always helps. There a some wonderful, practical examples of how Lisa uses her gifts and dreams to combat problems through this chapter. I won’t go into all of them because I really think you should read this book! Lisa also gives a great step by step outline to making that plan. Step One? Prayer. We need to be asking God how He wants us to walk through these issues. Our idea of how to solve these problems may not be the same as His. And His way will always be better.
Along with the chart I created for Chapter Four, I wrote out the steps listed in Chapter Five in a free printable. Stick it in your journal or on your fridge. Remember that getting through a problem is rarely an overnight occurrence. We need a plan on how God wants us to proceed through it.
Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. All such boasting is evil. If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.